Here when we say someone is having a romance it usually means they are dating someone – we rarely associate the word with a married couple, which is a big pity. It's taken to be those early heady days where it's all airy fairy magic and fluffy clouds, not the tougher days when the true strength of your love is tested.
But what happens after the romance, the walking out or dating?
Marriage or partnership, in some cases - When the financial worries, the division of household chores, the incoroporation of the two individuals and this new third entity “us”, countless other beings – them as in the in-laws, and then very often the arrival of new entities…kids, bring different dynamics and stresses into the relationship. It can seem like there is no time, or money, left for romantic love.
Not true! In fact that’s when you need it more than ever if the “us” entity is to flourish. As you get older you realise that romance doesn’t have to be a grand gesture, in fact it’s more often to be found in the little things. The occasional or unexpected bunch of flowers. A cup of coffee. Cosying up on the sofa and sharing a giggle either over some silly movie or even just a memory or a story one of you has heard. Or as we call it here, talking “shite” – meaningless jibberish that you’d cringe if anyone overheard. A walk in the park. Cooking something special. Saying “I love you,” and meaning it. Romance can be all around you if you choose to open the door to it and recognise it for what it is.
If you’re in a relationship, think about the nice things your partner did for you lately. Maybe they handed you a bit of cash because you were low in funds. Maybe they ordered in a takeaway or brought a bottle of wine home to share. Did you remember to show appreciation. Maybe a kiss, or a squeeze of the hand, or indeed a romp in the hay, whatever or however! If you want to keep the magic alive remember to appreciate the little things. They all add up. And don't forget to reciprocate, surprise them with the odd little thing too.